Question
“Swamiji, how do we not feel anger? And how do we avoid showing anger to other people?”

Answer
“Fall into the cold swimming pool… Yes, it works. Your anger will be cooled down in the swimming pool, and swim more quickly and quickly until you will become finally calm.

Anger is a great devil in our body. The real devil, he drinks the blood of others only but the devil of the anger drinks the blood from others and from oneself. Anger is a great thief, which will take away everything, all valuable things, which you have. And anger is that kind of thief that will come to your door and take away or steal everything away from you. You collect somewhere some good thing and you carry it home and he will come wait on the doorstep and will take everything away. You will enter again into the house as poor as you were.

Why anger? Let’s say someone made a mistake. You had a beautiful expensive, some glass pot or vase, a flower vase, from someone’s hand fall down and broke. Very angry… This time think, it could be you who let fall down the pot. And other one will become angry on you, how will you feel? So, always put yourself in that position. If you shout on your wife then put yourself in the position of your wife. And how will you feel when she shouts on you?

So, use your wisdom, you are very wise, very, very wise. You know so many things. Problem is there that you don’t utilize your own knowledge for your own self. You are a good advisor if someone has problems and comes to you or telephones, then you are so good, so wise, you help:” Don’t worry it will be okay…” and this and that… Many, many good things, you have so much wisdom. But when it happens to you then it is blocked out. Everything.

So use your wisdom, u know very, very much, you have a lot of wisdom. You have so many beautiful things in your life and in you, you have so many nice qualities. This little anger destroys everything.

Don’t be angry, and if still, then jump into the cold water. That will calm down, or cool down. Or drink cold water, a glass of cold water. Really it helps. When you are very angry, drink cold water, immediately something will become calm. And then sit down wherever you are and close your eyes and see your own anger. You will be ashamed about your self. From where anger came in me?

And sometimes a little anger is healthy. You should know where you should utilize the anger. Then that is not anger, that is strictness. That is teaching. You are strict to your children, you say “no” and this and that, even you will shout on them, but you have great love in the heart. You are saying them this because you love them. You don’t want to spoil their life, so you do care about them. So when you care about someone and you are strict in an angry way, that anger is healthy. That’s educational anger.

So if you are angry to your husband, that is very healthy… J To Mr. General Director, you know? So it keeps his level of the ego in certain height. Or to your wife if you are angry. But you are not angry from your heart towards your husband or towards your wife. Sometimes he or she is some very big director of some very big company, or you are some minister of something and you come home and still at the house you think you are minister of everybody. They will say: “No, you are at home, you are my husband. Don’t play minister now with us.”

So we should know where what to do, that’s it. So you love them, you know? You are not angry on them, you love them. That kind of anger, strictness, is healthy.
But other one should also be able to understand this.